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“Examples of subtle biases that harm: when I see someone with mental health issues and I feel I must distance or protect myself from them; when I rely on gossip to tell me about another person without allowing them an opportunity to show me themselves. These are examples of times where I must be extra astute and teasing apart my biases from the truth.”


Gottesman, the son of prominent Rabbi Menachem Gottesman, was born and raised in Southern California.

While the family was revered in the community, behind closed doors they endured addiction, emotional abuse and chaos, all made worse by the pressure to appear as perfect role models. For Gottesman, this resulted in a childhood eating disorder and drug use by age 14. At 33, Gottesman hit rock bottom and lost his multi-million-dollar business.

The resulting bankruptcy destroyed what little self-worth he had as a provider to his family. After a period of disillusionment with real estate and investment, Asher sought to do something more meaningful for others and himself. In following suit with his desire for fulfillment, Asher decided to create a place where people could be “heard” and could receive help to improve their lives.

In December 2008, he founded Transcend, a nationally recognized recovery community. Now sober twelve years and counting (March 19, 2008), Gottesman has counseled hundreds of men and women in early recovery. This has resulted in his identifying his three pillars of recovery - Accountability, Community, Unconditional Love.

Gottesman has maintained this commitment and has sought teaching from some of the best and brightest in the field of recovery to provide optimum care for our clients. What he thought was a last-ditch effort turned out to be the beginning of an odyssey of self-discovery, of trading in ego for vulnerability, of leaving pursuit of pleasure for the pursuit of meaning. Read More

Today, he is using his past experience to reach a broader audience by producing and hosting a new podcast, ‘Showing Up.’ Each episode Gottesman sits with guests as an irreverent, approachable mentor to their struggles, while helping listeners examine the changes necessary for lasting success in recovery, and what it means to show up in your own life.

Gottesman’s greatest gift is his ability to connect with people from all walks of life. And, in doing so, he’s learned that regardless of one’s background, the hardest part of healing is committing to radical honesty. In addition to his wife and five children, he has always considered the Men and Women of Transcend as his extended family. Gottesman is active in his community and enjoys a Southern California lifestyle that embodies wellness, outdoor activity, world travel, and above all else, being deeply grateful.

12 years sober.
1 dozen questions.
Asher G up close.

Twelve years sober is a big deal and for a mensch like Asher, it means sharing is caring. So, he thought he would trade twelve years of Recovery for a dozen unfiltered answers to  anything you want to know about him and his journey. Ask away!

That I’m confident and secure. I too struggle with the belief that I’m a fraud and unlovable. The difference today is that I have the tools to combat.