Here’s a question that’s been on my mind: Am I responsible for my brother’s actions? For that matter, what exactly is my responsibility in protecting my fellow from both harming themselves or harming us– or for that matter, me?
There is a saying in Judaism which says, “Don’t rebuke the fool, hence he will hate. Rebuke a wise man and he will love you.”
I think the answer to the above question is based on the interpretation of the above proverb.
I think when it says “don’t rebuke a fool,” it has two meanings. The first meaning is literal; don’t waste your time course-correcting or guiding someone who has no interest in changing. The second meaning is if you rebuke or course-correct someone who won’t listen, you are the fool, since he will hate you, you won’t accomplish anything, and you’ve put yourself in harm’s way.
Change is super hard, and while we can attempt to motivate others to change, ultimate change can only come from within.
The true time to help is when someone says, “I’m out of options and will do what I’m told without conditions.” When this happens, I’m absolutely responsible to help; it is my obligation.
This week, let’s make sure we place our helping resources first in helping ourselves, and then helping others who want it. |
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