THOUGHT OF THE WEEK – October 1, 2021
Commitment is a huge word, and is such an important component of all of our lives. The question is: How do we hold ourselves accountable to our commitments?
In my past, I have made countless resolutions—sometimes daily, sometimes annually (think New Year’s resolutions)—only to not make it last longer than a week or a month at most.
Whether my resolution involved exercising, eating well, watching my words, etc., for the longest time, none of my resolutions went the distance.
I truly learned about commitment when I started my journey to sobriety. I learned that if I wanted to stay sober, I needed to be accountable, and for me, that accountability came in the form of attending meetings and having a sponsor.
Then I had an interaction with my daughter, where I promised her I wouldn’t yell again. I truly meant it when I made that promise, yet I failed; the subsequent shame over the failure was even worse than the shame of hurting her feelings.
So, I asked my friends to hold me accountable. I created a yelling accountability partner and penalized myself when I yelled. I can now say that over the past 5 years—with some minor exceptions—I haven’t yelled once. Lesson learned: for me, accountability partners are incredibly important.
Lastly, I usually enjoy writing my Thought of the Week, yet sometimes the commitment feels overwhelming. However, since I publish it weekly, I have all of you, my readers, as accountability partners and for that I am incredibly grateful.
How do you stay accountable? Additionally, do you find value in having accountability partners, or are you able to hold yourself accountable all on your own?
This week, I want to share my sincere gratitude to all of you who take the time to read and respond. There is nothing greater than being seen and feeling heard, and I want you to know that I appreciate every single one of you.
Accountability, Community, Unconditional Love
Asher
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