Surely, this year has been a hard year for most. For some people, however, they have managed to find the silver lining– or may I dare say– the gold lining.

With the radical change in circumstances that have befallen us all this past year, people have been forced to be more present, they have gotten the ability to spend more time with their loved ones, and they have had time to reflect on their own lives, and determine how they want to live, and the course they wish to take.

Yet, where some have managed to find the gold lining, many others have truly suffered. Domestic violence is up, drug overdoses are up, suicide is up; tragic circumstances still abound for many.

The question is, how do we turn tragedy or suffering into an opportunity? How do we see the positive in the midst of a negative circumstance or experience?

What I have found, are three methods that work for me. For one, I have a few select people who I am completely and radically honest with; I tell them the good, the bad, and the ugly. I let these people know exactly what is going on in my head, and I seek non-judgmental, loving guidance from them. Secondly, I listen to guided meditations; I prefer guided ones, as the voice really helps me get out of my head. Lastly, and most powerfully for me, is being of service. When I choose to help someone else who is suffering, it truly allows me to heal.

I am lucky in that I have found some methods that are effective for me, however, I really would like to hear what works for you.

What do you do when you are suffering? How do you get out of your head? And perhaps most importantly, how do you find peace during trying times?

This week, let’s be of service to someone, whether it is as simple as an extra smile, a helping hand or a sincere “good morning, how are you?” Everything helps, even in small amounts.

Accountability, Community, Unconditional Love

Happy new year,


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